He helps me in so many ways that i would be all day if i mentioned every single one of them, but i will try and mention a few. Some of you know that i have chonic back issues. I dont talk about it very often so its possible some of you dont know that, or if you do, you dont know how bad. Since 1998 there are many things i cannot do. Well, i could try to do them but then i would be down for a few days. Really! I cannot vaccum, i can not bend over and clean out a bathtub. Just silly things i know but important things that you have to do. Some of you might be thinking, boy i wish i had an excuse like that. lol. But no really you dont. lol. But its something i dont take meds for as i have seen what pain meds can do to people long term and i figured out along time ago that as this would be a life time thing that i need to just learn to live with it. Accept what i can or cant do and deal with it. But i do live in different degrees with major back pain every day. I also have hip pain which i have been told will need to be replaced one day. I dont talk about this very often as i know im still a very lucky person. So many people have to deal with so much worse then back pain and im glad that this is what i have to live with and not what some of them have too. But anyway it is a problem alot of times. I always have to think before i do anything. Ralph has to do so much that i cannot do and not once has he ever said a negitive thing about it. He does so much more for me then most normal husbands do for there wifes. Of that i know. And not once has he ever acted like its a pain. He shows me nothing but love every day of my life. I wake up every morning of my life to be told how beauitful i am and how loved i am. Really i do. Even after all these years. He has always let me know how speical i am and is my biggest cheer leader in everything i do. He supports me in everything one hundred per cent. I swear his biggest though in his mind every day of his life is how to make me happy, feel loved and what he can do for me that day to help me and make me feel special. I know i am so so lucky to have him as my best friend and husband. Of that i know. He also is an amazing father. He proved that with how hard he worked to get Lee and Jay here from overseas when they were little. He knew they belonged here and needed to be here and he did everything possible until that happened. He had so many people thinking i was marrying him for a green card or something but he went with his own feelings and not theres. For that im forever grateful. His life hasnt always been easy. It has to be terrrible to be marrying someone no one wanted you too. lol. But he is such a strong person and he has proven that over and over to me many times over the years. I know him in a way no one else does. So many people think they know him based on how he was as a child but the man he is now is just amazing and anyone that is close to him knows that. All our kids know how lucky they are to have him as there father and father in law. He would do anything for anyone of them and he loves them all every single one of them. He is now showing what a wonderful grandpa he is. Our grandkids are so lucky to have him in there life. He will always be at every soccer game or dance recital or whatever they go into. Just like he always was and still is for our kids. He does so many things for me that i know he would rather maybe be doing something else. lol. Yeserday he took me to Ballet West. Of course having three daughters in dance he has aquire a knowledge of dance over the years, lol. But im sure he would have perfered to have been doing something else. But he took me and made me feel like the most beauitful women alive. In his eyes i will always be that cute 25 year old when we first met. lol. Next month we are going to a fundraiser for hearing aids for children that the osmonds are doing. Its a concert. In july hes taking me to wicked for my birthday and then the following week we are going to vegas to see celine dion and donny and marie. He was trying to fit in neil diamond for me too but it was the same night that we had tickets already for celine dion. What a guy. He works so hard. I know we both do but he really does. And when he gets home he will do whatever chores need to be done that im unable to do. (forget yard work for me). And he will always do the dishes after i have done dinner. Always. We have animals that require a lot of work and again he works alongside me with that and does all the heavy stuff i cant do. I love him more then i could ever say. He has protected me and stood by me for 27 years now, no one feels more safe and loved them i do. His gentleness and fairness in everything he does if something i see everyday of my life. He his truly my hero or my knight or whatever you want to call it. lol. I know that whatever life throws at us he will always be there to be the one to stop me getting hit by it and taking the weight of it as much as possible. My one wish is that we are lucky enough to have another 27 years or more together.
So on this upcoming anniversary i want to thank my wonderful husband. For coming over and talking to me that day so many years ago at a dance in provo. For not being scared off hearing i was a divorced women with two kids. For trusting in his heart and not the words of others and marrying me and making me his wife. For fighting so hard to get the boys over her to the USA. For adopoting them and rasiing them and being the wonderful father he was to them and all our children. For 26 wonderful wonderful years of marriage. For being my best friend and being here for me always. When im happy, sad, having a bad day or just being a bitch. For being the greatest husband ever, even when im not being the greatest wife. And thank you so much for being the father of all my children. I couldnt have raised such wonderful people without you by my side helping me every step of the way. Nothing was too much for you. All the years of sports and dance and everything else they were doing. You did and still contine to do it all.
I am soooooo blessed.
Love you forever Ralphy.
Heres to the next 26 years!!!!!!!!!
Happy Anniversary and a huge THANKS.
What a wonderful tribute to Ralph...Yes, he was always so calm through all of the drill years! It's AWESOME how he does chores! I didn't know about your back--you've endured it well. Congrats on 26 years!
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