I just wanted to do a post about how thilled i am that both Jay and Emmalee (who are on a trip to dallas right now) and Lee and Carole (who leave on a trip to Seattle tomorrow) accept the hard work involved in taking the kids,and take them.! I am amazed at how many people think its okay to leave little kids and babies with there parents for a week or more and take vacations without them. I guess to them it is okay as its with someone they trust but things can happen so quickly as most of us know and besides that fact. Build your vacation memorys with your kids for crying out loud. Its something i have always felt very strongly about. Yes its hard freaking work to take them. Ive traveled to england with mine when little by myself. I know how hard it can be. It also is very expensive adding all that extra cost in. When our kids were little vacations were far and few beween but we decided that if our kids couldnt go then we wouldnt also, simple as that. We had six kids so to times everything by 8 was very very hard. Vacations for us was sometimes a night in st george or a camping trip (which we only did once i think as that was so hard, lol ) but like i said they were far and few beween. Ralphs boss once noticed our lack of trips and offered us a free weekend paid for by himself, he also once offered to pay for me to fly to dallas when ralph had to work there for two weeks for the weekend. Both times we turned him down. If our kids couldnt go, we wouldnt. My parents were very much that way when we were kids, i remember my mum telling me that kids needed a holiday also away from the regular daily life and that the holidays (british people call them that) were what kids would remember. She also didnt want memorys that didnt have her kids in them. Of course once we were older they enjoyed many many trips alone. (14 cruises and around 20 other trips around the world) She always said that day would come and it did, now in fact has for us and now we do have the time to have trips alone and its wonderful. But i get so sad when i see people taking fancy vacations without there kids. It wont seem right to me no matter how people might sugar coat it. Things can happen very fast, what if something happened why you were gone, you would feel terrible. I once had my friends baby die of sids in my home while she was at work so i know things can happen. The guilt she had of not being there and the guilt i had of it happening while she trusted me to keep her baby safe was terrible for both of us. If she had been on a vacation i cant imgine how that would be. I also think kids have to have a hard time with it even if they love the people they have been left with. I cant imgine being dumped on someone as a kid while my parents went on a vacation, that would be very confusing and hurtful. Some dont even understand where there parents have gone im sure and if there coming back, or the ones that do must wonder if they were bad and couldnt go. Again we wasnt able to have many trips with our kids as we had a lot and money was hard. We started our marriage off with kids and court costs (getting the boys out of england and over here) that would blow you away so it was ten years before we even got a home. Then we had to give that home up when Cory had heart problems and needed open heart surgery and we had medical bills that would also blow you away, lol. So for us times were hard and vacations were something we just didnt do. Yes we could have done them without our kids but no, what vacation memorys we have, we have with all of us. Now the kids are grow is the time to have trip memorys together without them. Thats what i remember most from my childhood, not what fancy cars or stuff we had, but the times we had together and memorys built together. Im very grateful my parents loved me enough to have always taken me with them and not left me home. Its something i will always remember. I hope that my kids will remember the trips we were able to do, good or bad and be glad that we took them and didnt leave them home in order to have better ones alone without them. Im grateful that my two sons and there families are taking there kids with them on what has to be a hard trip. Yes it will be hard but its memorys of being together during this time that they will remember the most. Another wonderful example is my daughters friend Krista. She has two little kids and takes them everywhere, they have been to florida, new york, new jersey, ca, seattle and many more. She takes her kids everywhere with her and i admire her so much for that and the very hard work it involves. On a higher note we lacked in fancy vacations while they were little but did do a wonderful two week vacation to Florida in 2002. We figured we wanted one nice vacation together before they all left with there own lifes. It cost and arm and a leg but well worth the wonderful memorys we will all always have. It just makes me sad when i see adults taking off for Hawaii or cruises or whatever and leaving there very important kids behind. Wouldnt it be better to save and do it less then once a year and take them with you? Or do a lesser trip to say ca or something, but something you could all share. The day when they are all gone and you have plenty of time for vacations alone comes very very fast. Take the time to build the memorys with your kids now while you can. Just saying!
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